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Marriage
Marriage is a union between one man and one woman. This is a scriptural fact. We know that the union of a man and woman is the primary relationship each married man and woman should have on earth. A marriage that starts with Christ and is bathed in Christ can and will succeed. This is why pre-marriage counseling
is so important. It is the successful marriage that starts with Christ long before the nuptials are said. A systematic understanding of where each member of the couple has been, their experiences, their habits and their goals is crucial to a successful marriage. Since this is the beginning of the family there are arguments that this is the most important moves any married couple can make. This will certainly be the beginning of successful marriage and parenting experience.
When things do get rocky, and they most likely will, this is where Biblical Counseling can be the most important. In the day to day challenges of marriage Biblical Counseling may the thing that helps a couple get back on track and pointed in the direction God wants for them.
Genesis 2:24 This is why a man leaves his father and mother and bonds with his wife, and they become one flesh.
Men
Men are called to be leaders of the family, leaders in our Churches and leaders in our community. Somewhere, somehow men have been given the wrong message on how they are to be the Godly example they are meant to be. There are men who have given for God, lead for God, sacrificed for God and still not quite hit the mark God has intended for them. Understanding God’s plan for men in our world is sometimes very complicated given the overwhelming diminishing of God’s plan for men in our society. Society tells men they aren’t necessary in the family unit. Society tells men they aren’t necessary or important in raising children. This is not a one generation problem. This is a multi-generational problem. This is multi-faceted problem. Responsibilities at work and in our society cloud our judgement on what we are meant to do and how we are meant to act.
As God values Men and Women equally it is our role as men to be strong and resist the pull of society. Men are to study the Gospel and understand the plan God has for us. Many people have heard “well, that’s the way he shows love”. Men don’t believe that lie. We are to love our wives and children as Christ loves the Church. We are to lay down our lives for them. Both our professional lives and our physical lives if necessary.
Ephesians 5:25-26 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave Himself for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing her with the washing of water by the word.
Family
Easiest way to describe family is “Its Family”. There are no formulas to the diverse personal challenges a family may have. It is the blessed family that seeks the Lord. When it comes to family matters there are any number of factors that can cause difficulty. Being willing to approach a situation with the goal of resolution and not winning is one factor that needs to be discussed when family is turbulent. Coming to the table in humility may even cause the most Godly man to bristle. Family is the core of God’s plan. Without family we have loose associations that we are willing to abandon with little cause and attempt to move on with our own baggage just to repeat the cycle.
God’s desire for us within family is that we are together to live for him. A father and mother sheperd their child as best they can. Sometime the tools to shepherd the family aren't there and need to be developed. Developing the tools even as a single parent can only be done through God’s plan. Talk to us about working to strengthen your family.
Psalm 128:3-4 Your wife will be like a fruitful vine within your house, your children, like young olive trees around your table. 4 In this very way the man who fears the Lord will be blessed.
Business
There are some that would ask what Business has to do with Pastoral Counseling. The answer, from a spiritual perspective, is everything. We are called to do everything we do for the Glory of God. A truly biblically minded business must be managed and operated in a biblical way. Everything that is done in a business from the cleaning of the bathrooms to the meetings boardroom must be focused to the glory of God. Yes, Christians can run a company Biblically in a secular world. Attention to detail and respect for others is key to this endeavor. Weather your challenge is with coworkers, your responsibilities, subordinates, or supervisors we are called to act in a specific way.
Family businesses can be the most challenging. Just as it is difficult for an aging mother or father to pass along responsibility of care to a child so is the same in business. It is never easy to relinquish authority and responsibility of something you have nurtured for decades without having reservation. Situations that involve mediation, difficult employees, family business difficulties and general human resource personality assessments are some of the ways pastoral counseling can help. An experienced businessman with pastoral counseling training and experience can offer insight that can help your business to excel.
Colossians 3:23 Whatever you do, do it enthusiastically, as something done for the Lord and not for men, 24 knowing that you will receive the reward of an inheritance from the Lord.
Addiction
Addiction is a word we associate with the person on the street who has gotten in too deep and messed up their life beyond repair. In reality addiction isn’t necessarily drugs, alcohol, video gaming, porn, etc. Addiction is any unhealthy pursuit that causes damage to relationships, health and family. Addiction can be cured. It is not a death sentence. The answer lies in the counsel of someone who has studied different techniques within the scope of scripture. Never diminish the difficulty of someone who has been caught up in substance abuse, power, idolatry, anger or anything else. Situations that consume someone in a way that leads to the destruction of a household, the loss of a job or the alienation of children require care. Seek the counsel of someone who has a desire to dig into the individual challange and discover what scripture says about a specific addiction and a path to recovery.
1 Peter 5:8-9 Be sober-minded, be alert. Your adversary the devil is prowling around like a roaring lion, looking for anyone he can devour. 9 Resist him, firm in the faith, knowing that the same kind of sufferings are being experienced by your fellow believers throughout the world.
Aging
Everyone will get older. It’s just a fact. We all needed someone to take care of us when we came into this world. If we live long enough we will need someone to take care of us as we depart. This is just one of the many challenges we experience as we age. These situations require patience, care and humility. Sometimes it is the child that needs to initiate the discussion. Sometimes it is the mature, humble aging that initiates the discussion. the study of Gerontology looks at the most comfortable ways to discuss the difficult topics of end of life, care, inheritance and legacy.
What is your legacy and what is your desire. In reality God has a plan for the aging as well as those who are caring for the aging. Biblical counsel provides an understanding according to scripture for the challenges of aging. Seeking the counsel of someone who has experience dealing with these discussions, is the beginning of a smooth transition to eternity.
Psalm 71:17-18 God, you have taught me from my youth, and I still proclaim your wondrous works. 18 Even while I am old and gray, God, do not abandon me, while I proclaim your power to another generation, your strength to all who are to come.
Grief
Don’t cover it up or think it will go away. The loss of a loved one, the loss of a job, the loss of a home, divorce, failure or even moving to a new city, can trigger emotions that are called grief. Grief is the loss of something important to you. There are different kinds of grief and different solutions to grief. There are also many different approaches to dealing with grief. The one true solution can only be found in the counsel of the Lord. There always has to be the understanding that with loss that is deep and permanent there must be healing. Weather you take the five stage approach or the seven stage approach, there are certainly emotions you must deal with in a constructive manner. If you don’t deal with these things in a constructive manner they will manifest themselves in another way.
We are told in scriptures to “Cast your cares on the Lord”. 1 Peter 5:7 Biblical Counseling allows the avenue to arrive at the true solution of an incomprehensible pain. Talking to a Biblical counselor that may offer a direction towards a solution that will give you the tools to grow and heal.
Matthew 5:4 Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.
Life
The term “Life Coach” can make people cringe or recoil. It sounds like you are simply being given plays to get through the quarter or the game. God’s design for people if that they “know him and make him known” to “disciple and be discipled” to “grow and to help others grow” all this within the gospel. The good news offers more than a play or two to get through the quarter or the game, it offers a lifestyle that affords with it the tools to handle life’s ups and downs, peaks and valleys and placid lakes and stormy seas. There aren’t any tricks to living a life in Christ Jesus. Jesus simply ask that we seek out him so that we know him. The decisions that result will be decisions that are bathed in the character of Jesus.
Many times people are simply stuck in a life situation that they need someone to help them understand. Ultimately it comes down to having someone you can trust in and confide in. Often that comes in the way of a Pastor or Biblical Counselor.
Matthew 7:7“Keep asking, and it will be given to you. Keep searching, and you will find. Keep knocking, and the door will be opened to you. 8 For everyone who asks receives, and the one who searches finds, and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened.
If men were the model of Christ they are called to be: Marriages would be stronger, Families would be more stable, Businesses would have a greater purpose. Therefore causing less addiction in society, with people better able to handle grief and aging ultimately giving a better quality of Life.